Much of your success lies in positive thinking. By being able to think positively, you will find your entire outlook changes.

Our attitudes and thoughts really are everything.

Feeling kind of blah and wishing you had something better to say about the day than a mumbled ‘fine’ when someone asks you how you are? The solution might be simpler than you think.

When we’re not feeling great about our lives or how the day is going, everything can seem to go wrong. The problem is, life isn’t a steady thing. You might have one fantastic day followed by another equally bad. With so many things outside of your control from the weather to politics, it might seem impossible to ever truly feel good about anything.

How do you develop the habit of positive thinking?

  1. Rephrase

    The obvious answer is to use more positive words. Instead of saying something negative, either out loud or in your head, try to find a better way to say things. For example, work isn’t grueling so much as it might have interesting challenges. While this might seem artificial and forced at first, the more you work to rephrase things, the easier it will be to find a more positive spin.

  2. Reframe

    How many times have you talked about ‘having’ to do something. This alone has a negative connotation, as though you’re being forced into something you don’t want to do. Instead of trying to drop the word ‘have’ in this context and try inserting ‘get’ instead. You don’t have to do a presentation by Friday. You get to do one. Hear the difference? This is how you change a task into an opportunity.

  3. Reorient

    Sure, disasters are going to happen. Not everything you attempt is going to turn out exactly the way you’d like it to. Rather than focus on the disaster, try changing your focus. It might be time to shift to an alternative method or goal.

  4. Relax

    It’s so hard to use positive thinking when you’re absolutely exhausted and feeling like you’re in over your head. Sometimes the best way to cultivate better self-talk is to cut yourself some slack and take a break. Things will look brighter when you can come back refreshed.

  5. Reassess

    Using positive thinking should never be about closing your eyes to tragedy or injustice. Bad things are going to happen in the world. But someone with a positive attitude will look beyond the tragedy to the next step. Positivity finds solutions where others only see problems. Here is the birth of activism and change.


    1. Love this advice. My biggest problem is remembering to do all of this. Well, I have the relaxing part down but the rest really takes practice!

      1. It does take time to build up the habits for sure. Maybe just pick one and start there? Add on more as it becomes second nature.

  1. Good advice! Although I think it’s okay to say the absolute truth about something, even if that means using negative words, initially. It’s what you say next that matters. How you choose to respond, what you intend to do, etc.

    1. True, one of my favorite words is “Yet”. It’s more about changing from all of the constant unneeded negative talk. In working with EFT, we start with the negative, in order to release it, then incorporate the positive. There is a time and place for both, for sure.

  2. I love your thinking! I am more of a positive thinking and acting person and I always try to pull something positive out of a negative situation. Great tips April!

  3. I like the simplicity of the 5 R’s for positive thinking. Thanks for reminding me that changing my thoughts and words I use help.

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